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Solo female riders - do you feel safe on WarmShowers?

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Člen WS Obrázek uživatele Člen WS
Solo female riders - do you feel safe on WarmShowers?

Hi riders.

I am a 26 year old young woman on my first bike tour and wanted to get some feedback from other young women about their experiences on WarmShowers. I've had many wonderful hosts on this tour who I will remember forever, but also two very negative experiences where I had to flee from hosts in a hurry. In the first case I arrived and the host was drunk, pressuring me to drink alcohol, and asked me to sleep in his bed with him. I left in the first hour without ever unpacking my bags and slept in the park instead. The second kept staring at my chest, and I came home to my belongings thrown in the yard while he stood over me yelling in his underwear that I was abusive and a liar since I hadn't spent enough time with him that day (?). For the second one, I was honestly scared for my safety and rode away as fast as I could, since this was some seriously aggressive and bizarre behaviour. Both of these hosts had dozens of positive reviews from other guests and hosts and had been active in the community for a long time, but it seems as a young woman, positive reviews are not enough to protect you from sexual harassment and intimidation.

Is this a common occurrence? I am surprised to have such harrowing experiences with well-reviewed hosts, and I'm wondering if my experiences are common among solo woman riders specifically. 

Also, is there a way to block or report users? The second host is sending me unsolicited text messages calling me names and I'm afraid he will do this on the WarmShowers messaging too.

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Člen WS Obrázek uživatele jbues
Twoey, sorry to hear you had

Twoey, sorry to hear you had these experiences. I am curious to know if anyone from WS has reached out to you about this as I do not see any replies to your post. I hope this has not deterred you from touring.

edit- Now I see you had just posted this yesterday. I will follow along to see any feedback from the site admins. 

Člen WS Obrázek uživatele Člen WS
This is very sad to hear :(.

This is very sad to hear :(. I just checked and apparently there is no possiblity to report and block users, which is not understandable as most social networks provide that function today.

Člen WS Obrázek uživatele Člen WS
Block feature

Thanks Johny. I agree, I hope this feature can be introduced down the road.

Člen WS Obrázek uživatele Člen WS
Sorry to read of your bad experiences.

Might I suggest that you post really negative feedback for these people without pulling punches. They deserve to be named, and if it is not possible to block them on the site, at least tell others of your experience so that travelers can avoid them if they feel the need. Don't let these bad apples ruin your, or others, lives.

Ride safe, Barry

Člen WS Obrázek uživatele Člen WS
Sorry to read of your bad experiences.

Might I suggest that you post really negative feedback for these people without pulling punches. They deserve to be named, and if it is not possible to block them on the site, at least tell others of your experience so that travelers can avoid them if they feel the need. Don't let these bad apples ruin your, or others, lives.

Ride safe, Barry

Člen WS Obrázek uživatele Člen WS
Thanks Barry. For the first

Thanks Barry. For the first (inappropriately flirtatious host) I did post a negative review. For the second, I am honestly concerned about drawing more attention to myself from him and haven't yet posted a review. I've reached out to the WarmShowers team to report the individual and am waiting for a response.

Člen WS Obrázek uživatele Člen WS
Sorry to read of your bad experiences.

Might I suggest that you post really negative feedback for these people without pulling punches. They deserve to be named, and if it is not possible to block them on the site, at least tell others of your experience so that travelers can avoid them if they feel the need. Don't let these bad apples ruin your, or others, lives.

Ride safe, Barry

Člen WS Obrázek uživatele Člen WS
Hi! I've had 99% positive

Hi! I've had 99% positive experiences with hosts, only one was offensive.  He had positive feedback too, so now I make sure that the hosts are rated positively, especially by women traveling alone.  I wrote the host a negative review to warn other women and reported him on warm showers.  A feature to block him (so he doesn't see my location) would be great.

save travels! :)

Člen WS Obrázek uživatele Člen WS
Thanks for the reply Marie. I

Thanks for the reply Marie. I'm glad your interactions have been mostly positive. What was the result of reporting your host? I'm waiting to hear back from the WarmShowers team about further action around the second host, and am wondering if bans from the website are possible since I have serious concerns about this person.

Člen WS Obrázek uživatele Člen WS
I am back hosting on

I am back hosting on Warmshowers after a long gap. I quit - maybe 10 years ago - because there was a person looking for places to stay who had been convicted of sexually abusing fraternity pledges at the fraternity where he was an officer. When I contacted Warmshowers about this, they said it was none of their business and the responsibility of the hosts to verify any guests. We're not talking about a person with some bad reviews - we're talking about someone with a clear conviction of sexual abuse. Internet lodging / dating / meet-up sites are ripe for misuse - especially by skilled predators. Yes, it does make things more difficult for administration, but there should be a way to red-flag (with appeals) problematic hosts and guests.

Člen WS Obrázek uživatele Člen WS
This is horrific. Sorry you

This is horrific. Sorry you had this experience, and very worrisome that this was disregarded by the admins. I received a reply to my email to the WarmShowers team who said they would reach out to investigate further, but I haven't heard back since. Tough to know what to do.

Člen WS Obrázek uživatele Člen WS
this is very serious

this is an issue that should concern all of us -- the safety of fellow bicyclists.  

I think WARMSHOWERS should have some method of identifying, and ejecting, hosts who harass cyclists.  and I realize this will be a Process.  

Gerhardt

Člen WS Obrázek uživatele Člen WS
Thanks for all your comments

Thanks for all your comments everyone. At this point I have not received follow-up from WarmShowers about my concerns but will keep this thread posted if anything results.

Člen WS Obrázek uživatele Člen WS
don't hesitate

to restart the question to WS ..Be persistent 

Člen WS Obrázek uživatele Člen WS
Twoey, sorry to hear what

Twoey, sorry to hear what happened to you. Having said this, you must write a review (most likely negative) about the two individuals you mention. This will warn future guests to avoid staying with them. You must do this asap regardless of WS's follow up. Hope you have future best experiences on WS.

Člen WS Obrázek uživatele Člen WS
put their names on forum

put their name on forum could help  too , give them a feedback, but sure WS have to ask them about their behaviour.  i just red on some profile one time of a guy was very insistent at approaching a female guest, and she closed her self in a room and call police yes,  I never heard of a male that call police about a female haras him so  don t esitate, don t esitate call police.